At some point you have to step and let yourself in on a little secret you are keeping from yourself..
It’s actually easier to make the choice that is harder.
It’s actually easier to discipline your ass into staying committed to your habits that you’re wanting to create.
It’s actually easier and this is not the typical thing that you would hear when it comes to changing your life.. and here’s why.
The thing is, that when it comes to actual fucking CHANGE — and the things that you do on a daily basis— is that you actually don’t do what you don’t want to do.
I mean think about it, you do exactly what you want to do each and every day.
Even if its something you hate— you are still choosing to do that thing.
It’s actually what you are choosing to do, regardless of how you feel about it.
Maybe you made a commitment to doing that thing a long time ago and because of that you just do it, you made that choice.
When it comes to changing your life, installing and creating new habits in your life, its also easy, aligned and flow based to just make the decision that will make the difference.
The difference that makes the difference — is THE choice that you need to make.
And the funny thing is— when you make that choice… everything flows from there.
Even if its the harder choice.
I don’t know if I’m even making sense here, so let me explain…
When it comes to building your business, taking care of your health and fitness, working on your relationship, creating your art, whatever that is… when you make the decision that it’s important to you, when you DECIDE that it is a PRIORITY for you…. its actually HARDER to NOT do it.
How many times have you told yourself that it’s HARD to change?
Change isn’t difficult when you just do what it is you want to do.
If those things are important to you— then do them.
Make the choice.
The reason why it’s harder to NOT do it is because you suddenly then start to feel BAD because you’re NOT doing what you truly want to do.
It feels so AWFUL and out of ALIGNMENT when you’re NOT choosing to do those things that are important to you… it fucking sucks, it feels really bad, and I truly believe that when you’re NOT doing shit that is aligned with your soul that is what creates disease, anxiety, depression, etc… because you’re just not living in alignment with who you are.
Why not just give yourself permission to do exactly what it is that you want to do?
Why would it not be easier to just do this?
Because we think that it takes a ton of effort and that its hard to change.
Actually, in reality its not.
When you make a choice to change, its actually very simple.
You just start doing those things you want to do, because it feels good to you.
And in the short term it might not “feel good”— for example if you were to start working out, it actually feels really bad in the moment…
I remember when I started working out and doing Crossfit two years ago… those first few weeks were BRUTAL. I felt bad, my body was adjusting to it and physically I was wrecked and sore… but DAMN did it feel GOOD to me.
In the long term I knew that this is what I WANTED. It was the EASY choice. It was EASIER to just show up and do the work because that is what I wanted.
People go back and forth on what they want, on setting goals for themselves and not doing it because they think its hard to change.
It’s really not that hard.
What is hard is NOT doing what you want to do!!
When you don’t act in alignment with your soul, it feels really bad and the LONGER you stay in this place the HARDER it will be to make the change.
It is HARDER when you put it off.
It is HARDER to change when you make excuses for why it is you’re not doing it.
Just rip the band aid off already!!! Just DO IT!!!
The Universe rewards those who take fast action. Massive action.
And it just feels good to do so. Without thinking about it. SO many people get stuck in trying to figure it out, trying to determine the “best” course of action… and all the while, just HESITATING..
It actually is HARDER to change from this place!!
There is no perfect time.
You will not feel ready.
All the pieces will not be put together.
It will feel messy and chaotic.
And in this place, it is the PERFECT time to change. To take action on what it is that you want to be doing.
It’s actually MUCH harder to NOT allow yourself to do so.
You’re the only one holding yourself back.
When you make the choice to change, why not just do it?
You’re only punishing yourself.
I know its hard to think about it in this way, but in truth you know what it is that you are meant to be doing… why not just allow yourself to do it?
You will feel so much better when you do!!!
Whatever it is…
Whether its a difficult conversation that you’ve been putting off…
Whether it’s a new health and fitness lifestyle you’re interested in embarking on…
Whether it’s starting a new creative project… starting a business… unleashing your art or getting your message out into the world…
Whatever it is… start today. Now, right now!
Do it now!
Think about it… it’s actually harder to NOT do it… because it is taking up SO much mental bandwidth in your head…
Emotionally it feels heavy and weighs on you because you know you’re not doing what you want to be doing…
Physically you might even develop symptoms (I know I did this past year from not living 100% fully in alignment, it started to really affect me)…
It’s WAY easier to just do it.
It feels SO much better when you do!!!
It allows your energy to flow freely as it was always meant to.
It frees up space inside of you— mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
You begin to channel that stuck stagnant energy into the place that it was wanting to go!! In that way you begin to feel ALIGNED, ENERGIZED and ALIVE again!!
When you do you feel on FIRE! Even if in the moment, making the change is HARD or feels BAD… that’s totally okay!! Cause you KNOW that its in alignment.
I ALWAYS feel like this when starting a new habit!! I get SO jacked up and this is probably why its so EASY for me to make changes in my life. Because I THRIVE on this shit… I get LIT UP by making massive UPLEVELS in my life.. it pumps so much energy through your veins, injecting life and breath into your new vision that you’re wanting to create for yourself…
In this way its actually EASIER to make the choice…
To stick to your goals…
To commit to your dreams…
Because you know its just the way it was meant to be.
You know what it is that you are meant to be doing, deep down.
And if you don’t right now, allow yourself to take some space for that right now.
It’s just as simple as sitting down and asking yourself… What do I REALLY want right now?
What is it that my SOUL is calling for me to do right now?
What is it that wants to come THROUGH ME?
What things in my life have I been putting OFF that I really really really want to do?
What would feel GOOD to me right now?
For me, it’s writing, creating and unleashing my art. For the past year and a half, I have been working on this daily habit.
A YEAR AND A HALF!!!
WTF I think about that now, like, that’s crazy! I have been SO STOP-START-STOP-START for a year and a half, and still hadn’t been able to make the habit STICK in the way I wanted to.
I would go for a few months or even a few weeks, and then something would happen and I would stop.
Honestly, it was harder to STOP than it would have been to keep going.
Now— because I just sat down and make the CHOICE and have allowed it to be EASY for me to do so… it has become a part of who I am and what is essential and required for me, as a creator and as a woman and a business owner.
I NEED to write and create and unleash.
It’s harder for me NOT to do it.
It feels so amazing when I do!!
It’s easier for me to just keep going. Day in and day out.
Just keep doing the things that make me feel good and that are nourishing to my SOUL.
Creating my true art.
Being who I am meant to be in this world.
I realize that who I am is evolving and yet also…. that who I am is not a static being, never has been and never will be.
That through these choices that we make, we have to allow ourselves to make new choices and know that even our old choices did not define us, just as much as these new choices will not either.
But that who we are and what we are evolves every moment of every day.
We have to give ourselves permission to be who and what we are, each and every day.
That expecting ourselves to be the same as yesterday is an old concept.
To expect ourselves to be something different or better tomorrow is a pipe dream.
But rather to just own it and be it and do it now, without judgment.
Without expectation.
Without labeling it good or bad.
Just allowing it to be what it is.
Making the choice today out of respect and love for ourselves and our authenticity.
Because anything less is NOT giving yourself permission.
Anything less would be NOT making the aligned choice.
What is it that you want to be doing today that is the easy choice?
What would happen if it were just THAT EASY?
What if you believed that you could shift and change everything about your life in an instant, when you make that choice?
The choice is the thing that will make the biggest difference for you now, and in the future.
What is the difference that would make the difference, for you? Right now?
It is what it is, now give yourself permission. To do that. To be that. To have that.
And know— the harder choice is actually the EASIER one to make.
What is it that you are ready to step into?
What new beliefs are you ready to integrate now?
What would happen if you gave yourself permission to believe that change is easy?
It is time for you to step into the flow…
To surrender to the greater plan that the Universe has for your life.
You know that there is something calling you, a deeper part of you that is yearning for something greater, that wants to be unleashed!!
THIS is exactly the part of you that wants you to make this choice!!
There IS a Divine Plan for your life and when you just LET GO and SURRENDER to the fact that you are being guided, your choices become easier to make, even when they are the “harder” choice.
I continue to again and again — make those choices that are in alignment with my Highest Good, and I live my life this way. It sometimes baffles people because I literally will make massive changes in an INSTANT in my life.
Like packing up my entire life in Texas and driving across the country to San Diego without a plan, without a place to live.
Like making choices to quit businesses and close down programs I’ve run in the past that have made me significant amounts of money, and shutting it down just because it didn’t feel good and wasn’t in alignment anymore.
Like putting all my stuff in a POD, booking a plane ticket to Bali and traveling location-free for months.
I could continue on and on with examples of choices I’ve made to CHANGE and UPLEVEL my life over the years… and most people would identify those with being “hard” changes…. I disagree.
These were some of the EASIEST choices I’ve ever made.
Not because I was super clear of what was going to happen… not because I wasn’t terrified, because I was… but because the EASIEST choices is the ALIGNED choice…
I knew that I just couldn’t go ON in those things that I didn’t believe in anymore… I can’t do things that don’t feel good to me… I just CAN’T LITERALLY continue to do things that my SOUL isn’t 100% in LOVE with and ALIGNED to…
Just like when I got to the place in my life where I KNEW and was being called to working out and improving my physical body… I had this calling to want to work out intensely and aggressively two years ago… I couldn’t NOT make this choice, and joined Crossfit and even though it wasn’t easy, it was massively aligned and helped me to upgrade my energy. My body needed to be a greater conduit for energy to move through me, as a powerful coach and healer, and I just HAD to make that CHOICE to work out.
It was EASY.
It was EASY because it was ALIGNED.
These are the things that I WISH more people would TRUST…. it’s like, how could you NOT TRUST the Universe’s plan for you??
If you have these desires, why WOULDN’T you want to act on them???
It makes no sense to me.
I literally do whatever I feel guided to do.
I KNOW with every fiber of my being that I am exactly where I am meant to be, right now.
I have no regrets.
I have no self-doubt about what I am doing.
I don’t second guess my choices.
I am super present to what IS right here, right now.
I believe that the right people come into my life at the right time.
I believe that everyone I meet is a powerful teacher for me.
I believe that I am receiving exactly what I need from every moment of my existence.
How could I not? It’s my experience and when I am super present and aware of what is happening, I see it from this perspective of it all being a great GIFT to me…
The perfect clients come to me at the perfect time.
The Universe brings me all the women and people I am meant to help, at exactly the right time.
There is ALWAYS a powerful reason why people are brought into my life.
They are usually ready to UPLEVEL their life in some BIGGER and HIGHER way.
I tend to have a MASSIVE affect on people’s energy, especially when it comes to taking ACTION and going after your DREAMS!!
Maybe it’s because I just give people PERMISSION to BE WHO THEY ARE and DO WHAT THEY LOVE, or maybe it’s because I’ve done SO MUCH work on myself that just my PRESENCE and ENERGY alone is enough to move MOUNTAINS…
But for whatever reason, this is who I am.
This is what I’m meant to be doing.
I live my life by example, and through my example, you are liberated as well.
You are FREE to make the choices that are most aligned for you.
Even if they are the “harder” choice— I challenge you today to say, that that is bullshit.
It’s actually HARDER to NOT live your dreams.
It’s harder to be depressed.
It’s harder to stay stuck.
It’s harder to have anxiety.
It’s harder to keep thinking about those dreams and goals and things that you want, and not go after them and get them.
It’s harder to sit and think about the dream life that you don’t have, and feel guilty and ashamed and depressed to NOT have it.
Because the truth is, that you just have to make a CHOICE…
Once you do that, it will get easier.
I didn’t just wake up one day and be PERFECT at making the aligned choices for myself.
It’s a skill I definitely have honed over the years, to really tune in and listen to my intuition… and then FOLLOW it.
Most of us KNOW what that voice of INTUITION says… maybe it’s just a WHISPER or QUIET voice… but we all have it.
What would happen if you not only LISTENED to that voice— but TOOK ACTION on it?
What would happen if you FOLLOWED your INTUITION?
What would happen if you began to make all your choices based on it?
Your life would be VERY different.
I could imagine that you would probably be much happier!
Because you would be doing exactly what you want to be doing. And THIS is the easier choice.
This is what makes us feel ALIVE.
By tuning in, listening, and making the choice that is most in ALIGNMENT with your true authentic self. Who you really are.
Give yourself permission, today— to tune in.
Journal on these questions I posed here today.
Ask yourself, what is it that I really want?
And what would happen if I just let it be EASY?
What CHOICE am I ready to make for my Highest Good, now?
Know that you are worthy of it being exactly the way you want it to be… aligned, in flow and feeling AMAZING…
Because you can be, do, or have ANYTHING you want… as long as it’s in alignment with your SOUL.
Tune in, listen, and take ACTION on that TODAY.
You deserve it.
I believe in you.
Sending SOOOOO much love and healing energy your way beautiful soul!!!
In light + love,
Lauren Love